CK. I am one of the guys here that defends you. Largely because I remember what it was like to be in your shoes. When you post in any thread and within 5 minutes there are three or four guys right behind you trolling. It ain't fun and it gets frustrating. I get it.
But it's posts like this that are indefensible.
1. Why would you say "him" when you know delores is a woman's name
2. Why post in the thread at all just to say you don't know who it is
