General,
First of all, I would take away his keys from him whenever possible...
But more importantly, I would try and get your friend into some serious treatment facility before he kills himself and/or others...
Lastly, if he doesn't want help, there is nothing you can do for him but pray...
Ken
First of all, I would take away his keys from him whenever possible...
But more importantly, I would try and get your friend into some serious treatment facility before he kills himself and/or others...
Lastly, if he doesn't want help, there is nothing you can do for him but pray...
Ken
Does not sound like there much u can do. He has to want to help himself.
I used to get wasted and drive everywhere. I have blown .28 breathtests and been able to walk and talk. You have to want to help yourself to stop.
I just beat my third DWI today in court on lack of evidence. I quit drinking and driving a year ago when my lawyer told me I was going to jail. That's all I needed to hear. He scared the **** outta me. The thruth is he was gonna get it thrown out of court, but he kept me hanging thinking i was a dead man until today. He never once told me i was going to get off and kept me thinking i was headed to jail. He really did teach me a lesson.
I quit smoking and drinking a month ago anyway. I was not meant to drink.
Take care,
Ku
I used to get wasted and drive everywhere. I have blown .28 breathtests and been able to walk and talk. You have to want to help yourself to stop.
I just beat my third DWI today in court on lack of evidence. I quit drinking and driving a year ago when my lawyer told me I was going to jail. That's all I needed to hear. He scared the **** outta me. The thruth is he was gonna get it thrown out of court, but he kept me hanging thinking i was a dead man until today. He never once told me i was going to get off and kept me thinking i was headed to jail. He really did teach me a lesson.
I quit smoking and drinking a month ago anyway. I was not meant to drink.
Take care,
Ku
Extremely common for alcaholics to do this. If you really want to help your friend you need to get the help of his family - intervention is not easy but it does work.
As far as calling the cops goes I would not do something like that personally. I would rather wrestle the keys away risking his anger. After 3 DUIs this guy is headed for big trouble and needs help that only drastic measures can bring to him.
Best of luck, wil.
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first one is bad enough ( I got one). Second, they get a lot harder. Third is likely a year in jail/prison.
Fourth, you start talking 5 years, or so. Fifth you may never legally drive again. Varies by state a lot. Third offense is time anywhere.
The first should be a strong wake-up call, Second don't even think about a third. Stop at two and re-evaluate. One can occur, get to 2, you have a serious problem ! #3 is coming, soon.
Fourth, you start talking 5 years, or so. Fifth you may never legally drive again. Varies by state a lot. Third offense is time anywhere.
The first should be a strong wake-up call, Second don't even think about a third. Stop at two and re-evaluate. One can occur, get to 2, you have a serious problem ! #3 is coming, soon.
As tough as it is, you MUST talk some sense to him. Take him out for a lunch/dinner, when both parties are sober and let him know how you, your friends and everyone around him feel about the situation. Tell him he is going down the wrong path, and if he won't do anything about it, you certainly will. If he is hiding his problem from his folks/family, well then he is scared what they would think or do about the situation.
That being said, try rationalizing with him first, then let him know the exact course of action you plan on taking if you see no change. It's sad how some people can't control themselves. Trust me, I am no angel, but a good friend of mine had problems with cocaine. It was seriously out of control, and I was a big part of it, but still had the balls to tell him he had a problem, night in and night out while we were both partying.
It finally came to the point where I said, listen, this **** has to end, I am here for you. Let's do it together, we'll find someone you can talk to but you have to want to do it. I gave him a 2 day deadline to come to me first and seek help. He didn't come around, so against my will I went to his older brother and folks. I really had no choice, this is one of my best friends and I couldn't see this **** anymore. He, like your friend, also has 3 DWI's and I went ahead and sat his gfols/bro down. After I was done, part of me felt like **** for "betraying" a friend, but the other half felt great in knowing that now someone else will do something about it, someone that he previously feared.
That being said, he got an ass whipping from his brother, sense talked into him by his mother and went to rehab. 10 months later now, he is not completely clean, but the change is remarkable.
All it takes is to put a little pressure on that person himself. They will fight and deny until something bad happens. You can't let that happen. General, please help your friend, and the innocent bystander that is waiting to be killed. Drinking and driving is one thing, but if you can't keep your eyes open, then it's a problem. Do something for your friend before it's too late.
Keep us updated as I am hoping to hear a success story. I have tons of info on this **** if you want to send me an email. Psychology type **** which may be able to help. Talk sense into him!
GL
Treez
That being said, try rationalizing with him first, then let him know the exact course of action you plan on taking if you see no change. It's sad how some people can't control themselves. Trust me, I am no angel, but a good friend of mine had problems with cocaine. It was seriously out of control, and I was a big part of it, but still had the balls to tell him he had a problem, night in and night out while we were both partying.
It finally came to the point where I said, listen, this **** has to end, I am here for you. Let's do it together, we'll find someone you can talk to but you have to want to do it. I gave him a 2 day deadline to come to me first and seek help. He didn't come around, so against my will I went to his older brother and folks. I really had no choice, this is one of my best friends and I couldn't see this **** anymore. He, like your friend, also has 3 DWI's and I went ahead and sat his gfols/bro down. After I was done, part of me felt like **** for "betraying" a friend, but the other half felt great in knowing that now someone else will do something about it, someone that he previously feared.
That being said, he got an ass whipping from his brother, sense talked into him by his mother and went to rehab. 10 months later now, he is not completely clean, but the change is remarkable.
All it takes is to put a little pressure on that person himself. They will fight and deny until something bad happens. You can't let that happen. General, please help your friend, and the innocent bystander that is waiting to be killed. Drinking and driving is one thing, but if you can't keep your eyes open, then it's a problem. Do something for your friend before it's too late.
Keep us updated as I am hoping to hear a success story. I have tons of info on this **** if you want to send me an email. Psychology type **** which may be able to help. Talk sense into him!
GL
Treez
