mothers day question. what was her strongest influence on you?

Roxygurl · May 4, 2005

its that time. and for me its a rough one. my mom died from cervical cancer 12 years ago and this has always been a bad week to get thru. you never get over losing a parent and it doesnt get easier as the years go on. my mom was a hell of a woman. very beautifull and full of life. she never once asked during her illness "why me?"she said"why not me?" i know i could not face my own demise with such class and dignity. she taught me humility. she always told me to treat everyone as i wanted to be treated. she was stunning in looks yet never took compliments well regarding that and always said our looks fade with the passage of time but who we are will never change. its better to be a quality person for in the end our personalitys is all we have.ive never forgotten that. i know others here have lost thier moms as well. this was a topic in the rubberoom awhile back and to those who have we will spend mothers day together in spirit here on sunday. to those with a mom please cherish her that day and thank her for giving you life and for raising you with love and all shes given you.honor her now with your memorys.i loved mine and i thank her now. :103631605

~RG

Jarbo · May 4, 2005

Roxy - It seems to me your Mother reaised an incredible Daughter.Remeber her, be thankful and some day repay the favor.

Best Wishes.

--Jarbo--

P.S. Lost my Mom just a little over two years ago, still too fresh to go on about it here.

Roxygurl · May 4, 2005

Jarbo said:
Roxy - It seems to me your Mother reaised an incredible Daughter.Remeber her, be thankful and some day repay the favor.

Best Wishes.

--Jarbo--

P.S. Lost my Mom just a little over two years ago, still too fresh to go on about it here.

im feeling you jarbo.it hurts and never gets better. thank you.

TheAce · May 4, 2005

my mother passed away jan 6 2003...her birthday and mothers day seems to be the hardest days to get thru but we must keep on going. i am my mothers son...i am who i am because of my mother...if not for her who knows what type of person i'd be.

i'm thankful...my mother taught me to read by reading the newspaper sports pages to me...i would lay on the kitchen floor and try to read the sports page to her, if i needed help she'd be right there...my love of sports came from her. in my teenage years i gave her a run for her money but we both survived. i bet she said thank god for that.

for those who still have moms give them a hug for me. i sure wish i could give my mother a big hug and kiss. my thoughts will be with you all on sunday.

volhound · May 4, 2005

unconditional love and loyalty

She is on my side - right or wrong

winkyduck · May 4, 2005

My mom is the greatest. whenever we (bro/sis/i) "were sick" growing up - we always waited for Dad to go to work then tell Mom we were sick because we knew it would be easier to "pull it off" then with Dad. there are a few things i love about Mom

1.) I didn't get her "height" - she is maybe 5'2" and i am 6'1"

2.) the biggest influence on me is the way she treats people. for the most part she is nice to EVERYONE and sometimes goes way out of her way to treat them great. she also has a pretty good sense of humor, too, and can take some good natured ribbing. Mom's fave show is the whole "Rocky and Bullwinkle" cast of characters. she and Dad have been married 42+ years yet she would leave Dad in a nanosecond for Dudley Do Right if he asked her to do so - honest. Also, on "R&B" Boris and Natasha's boss is "Mr. Big" - someone who casts a HUGE shadow on the wall and projects a large than life image. since i love that show, too (if i ever get married - and say the wedding takes place @ Noon, if i pass by a TV that is showing an 8-hour "R&B" marathon that started @ 11A - the wedding will have to wait for i am sticking around until it ends @ 7P), one day i was watching when they showed Mr. Big. the character is only a few inches high but because they project the image from the ground up - it makes Mr. Big seem like he is 20-feet tall. THE SECOND i saw this i KNEW that was Mom - someone 2-inches high yet casts a larger than life image. this was about 15-20 years ago and ever since then i started calling MOM "Mr. Big" - and now even Dad sometimes calls her that, too - and to show you how it took off, even Mom's mom - called her that, too, at times - even though she was well into her 80s when it happened. On my cell phone I don't list her number as "Mom" but rather "Mr. Big" and she doesn't mind - for she has a great sense of humor - and i love her for that. she is also REALLY smart and that had an influence on me, too. Mom is just a great person at heart and that is the biggest impact on me. as a guy i love wearing raggy old t-shirts. one day mom got tired of seeing me wear this shirt which was full of holes so she literally ripped the shirt off my back. that started a running gag. whenever i have a battered old T-shirt i put it on and mom rips it off my body. she just loves doing this and it is super funny.

Reading stuff from people like Roxy and Ace-2-3 makes me realize just how REALLY lucky i am to still have her around. i know there will come a day when she won't be - and that will be crushing to take - which is why i value having her around now.

aceduecetrey · May 4, 2005

I was incredibly close to my mother and that is one thing I am thankful for. When she passed away from Cancer, my sister and I were right there by her side at the hospital for the last 5 days of her life. While I am thankful that I had that time with her, it was by far the hardest possible thing I can imagine I will ever have to go through when the end finally arrived. She had a very close relationship with god and was at peace with what was happening. I however was very bitter and it took me a long period of time to finally come to peace with what had happened. One of the main components that finally helped me come to terms was something that I found that she had left for me in a place that she knew I would find it eventually. It was cut out of a newspaper and since I see many people here have gone through a similar experience, I thought I would share it.

-When I am gone, release me, let me gho. You have so many things to see and do. You musn't tir yourself to me with tears. Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you my love, you can only guess, how much you gave me in happiness. I thank you for the love you each have shown, but now it's time I traveled alone. So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must, then let you grief be comforted by trust. It's only a while that we must part, so bless the memories within your heart. I wont be far away, for life goes on. So if you need me, call and I will hear. Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near......and if you listen, with you heart, you'll hear all of my love around you, soft and clear. And then, when you must come this way alone, I'll greet you with a smile and "Welcome Home". Remember Me-

TheRightWing · May 4, 2005

Angels in the skies shine down is what it sounds like in a few cases from here....

TheAce · May 4, 2005

aceduecetrey said:
I was incredibly close to my mother and that is one thing I am thankful for. When she passed away from Cancer, my sister and I were right there by her side at the hospital for the last 5 days of her life. While I am thankful that I had that time with her, it was by far the hardest possible thing I can imagine I will ever have to go through when the end finally arrived. She had a very close relationship with god and was at peace with what was happening. I however was very bitter and it took me a long period of time to finally come to peace with what had happened. One of the main components that finally helped me come to terms was something that I found that she had left for me in a place that she knew I would find it eventually. It was cut out of a newspaper and since I see many people here have gone through a similar experience, I thought I would share it.

-When I am gone, release me, let me gho. You have so many things to see and do. You musn't tir yourself to me with tears. Be happy that we had so many years. I gave you my love, you can only guess, how much you gave me in happiness. I thank you for the love you each have shown, but now it's time I traveled alone. So grieve a while for me, if grieve you must, then let you grief be comforted by trust. It's only a while that we must part, so bless the memories within your heart. I wont be far away, for life goes on. So if you need me, call and I will hear. Though you can't see or touch me, I'll be near......and if you listen, with you heart, you'll hear all of my love around you, soft and clear. And then, when you must come this way alone, I'll greet you with a smile and "Welcome Home". Remember Me-

WOW...brought tears to my eyes.

JudgeWapner · May 4, 2005

My mother instilled in me the quality of finding the good in people.

Roxygurl · May 4, 2005

the few responses thus far is touching and a deep tribute to some very special mothers. i know every body here has/had a mom. dont let this thread go without expressing your memorys,thoughts and thanks for your mom.~RG

oldmanTED · May 4, 2005

Roxy:

I lost my mother as well in 1998 after an illness that spanned nearly 30 years. To this day, I still miss her wisdom, graciousness and dignity. As the youngest of her three children, I was the only one that was born post World War II which was a happy time for her to be with my father after returning safely. She was good and kind to all of her children, but treated me especially well because I was the baby of the family. She taught me to be a leader and make my own path and I taught her to dance to her own tune. I was very blessed to have such a wonderful mother that considered her children to be her highest calling. The older I get, the more I miss her voice. Hard as I may try, I cannot hear her and many times I certainly need her guidance. Thank you for starting this thread. This Sunday, I will not feel so alone as I can see that other members will miss their mothers as well. For those of you that still have your mother with you this year, give her a big hug and tell her that you love her because one day she will not be here for you to hug.

shockltvalue · May 4, 2005

Reading everyone's reply really makes me feel bad for taking my Mom for granted for so long. I guess because she seems so full of life and laughter, i feel sorta think she will always be around. But you never really know what tomorrow will bring so I will definetly start showing a little more appreciation to her for raising me to be the successful person that I am today. She truly is without an equal in this world for me since she has always been there for us through all the good and bad in our lives. Guess I really have to get started with a really great Mothers Day Gift, huh?

I am truly sorry for everybodys losses and hope this Mothers day you all celebrate the memory of your mothers lives and their accomplishments(all of you). Here is to mothers everywhere.
SHOCK

TheAce · May 4, 2005

oldmanTED said:
Roxy:

I lost my mother as well in 1998 after an illness that spanned nearly 30 years. To this day, I still miss her wisdom, graciousness and dignity. As the youngest of her three children, I was the only one that was born post World War II which was a happy time for her to be with my father after returning safely. She was good and kind to all of her children, but treated me especially well because I was the baby of the family. She taught me to be a leader and make my own path and I taught her to dance to her own tune. I was very blessed to have such a wonderful mother that considered her children to be her highest calling. The older I get, the more I miss her voice. Hard as I may try, I cannot hear her and many times I certainly need her guidance. Thank you for starting this thread. This Sunday, I will not feel so alone as I can see that other members will miss their mothers as well. For those of you that still have your mother with you this year, give her a big hug and tell her that you love her because one day she will not be here for you to hug.

Ted, it seemed like it was a day or two after my mothers passing that i lost the sound of her voice. Still to this day it's hard for me to remember the sound of her voice...and i do miss that voice.

IndianaMike · May 4, 2005

My mother is a saint and I am who am today because of her. My father recently passed away and she is the rock that keeps our family going.

Roxygurl · May 5, 2005

oldmanTED said:
Roxy:

I lost my mother as well in 1998 after an illness that spanned nearly 30 years. To this day, I still miss her wisdom, graciousness and dignity. As the youngest of her three children, I was the only one that was born post World War II which was a happy time for her to be with my father after returning safely. She was good and kind to all of her children, but treated me especially well because I was the baby of the family. She taught me to be a leader and make my own path and I taught her to dance to her own tune. I was very blessed to have such a wonderful mother that considered her children to be her highest calling. The older I get, the more I miss her voice. Hard as I may try, I cannot hear her and many times I certainly need her guidance. Thank you for starting this thread. This Sunday, I will not feel so alone as I can see that other members will miss their mothers as well. For those of you that still have your mother with you this year, give her a big hug and tell her that you love her because one day she will not be here for you to hug.

your mom left this world knowing her son became the wonderfull man he is today ted. i thought of you when i left this thread. i cherish our friendship and youll be in my thoughts sunday. for those of us without moms this sunday please post your thoughts here so the rest of us can celebrate sunday by reading your posts.i DO still hear my moms laughter. i still see her beautifull face and i still see her in her bed curled up on a saturday reading a good book.my remaining family lives in seattle so i will be alone sunday. but i will be here if anyone needs a friend :103631605

~RG

LakersFan4Life · May 5, 2005

my moms biggest impact on me was the importance of family and the right way to treat people by far.

max1234 · May 5, 2005

I'd have to agree with Judge's post. My mother looks for the good in people as opposed to just noticing the bad. My grandmother passed away last Saturday and the last few days have been a little tough. The fact that she was 95 and lived an illness free life till almost the end helps temper some of the pain. But mom learned her values from grandma and this thread brings back many memories of someone busting on someone and Grandma pointing out something good they had done. It's one trait that I need to be more aware of as I still tend to overlook this in people at times.

Journeyman · May 5, 2005

Sorry for your loss Max.

Roxygurl · May 5, 2005

max1234 said:
I'd have to agree with Judge's post. My mother looks for the good in people as opposed to just noticing the bad. My grandmother passed away last Saturday and the last few days have been a little tough. The fact that she was 95 and lived an illness free life till almost the end helps temper some of the pain. But mom learned her values from grandma and this thread brings back many memories of someone busting on someone and Grandma pointing out something good they had done. It's one trait that I need to be more aware of as I still tend to overlook this in people at times.

im very sorry to hear your grandmother died max. its not easy and when it happens so close to a holiday its even rougher. this sunday your family will share the love and memorys of the family patriarch and it will be painfull but also a day no one will ever forget. is your grandfather still with you? if so he needs you now.i think our moms did a masterfull job with us all. its truly an honor to be among such quality and wonderfull people here. we all have our vices,like betting,but our moms did too and yet here we are,great people in challenging times.