Shrink,
Let me be your shrink for a moment...
You bust your balls trying to do what's right, you get a great result but then a big can of shít explodes and everyone expects you to clean it up. Is that it?
I can tell you the root of it...it is that you pay too much attention to the person in front of your nose at any given time and too little to the others who are still there even though you can't see them. It could be some sort of over-responsiveness to sensory stimuli, or a mild form of obsessive-compulsive disorder, or something like that.
You always figure out what's right after things have calmed down, but by that time you've made some irreversible decsions.
I'm not sure what the solution is...maybe yoga, maybe a conversion to Buddhism, or maybe just slowing down the pace, who knows!?
In any case, I'm sure you'll find a way since you always have before.
BTW I'd be happy to trade places with ya for a day as long as we don't :hump: each other's women. Deal?