Question about divorce. Half, or nothing?

bigbet1234 · Feb 19, 2006

Say you have been separated for a year, and your wife has supported herself for that year. Well, less $300 a month that is. You are in separate living quaters, and finances are separate.

Say you decide the separation is going to lead to divorce. Could the one with the $$ get fvcked still?

BB

teazeman · Feb 19, 2006

uuhhh can you say hell yes.

t3a · Feb 19, 2006

bigbet1234 said:
Could the one with the $$ get fvcked still?

BB

ABSOLUTELY

If lawyers get involved, someone will get fvcked. Guarenteed.

IF you could get an agreement in writing with your ex, court might accept it if it is reasonable.
But if she gets a lawyer FORGET IT.

TwoCard · Feb 19, 2006

With no kids - the lawyers are the only winners.

bigbet1234 · Feb 19, 2006

Wonderful.

BB

bigbet1234 · Feb 19, 2006

How could the wife get anything? She has her own job, living quaters and bank accounts. There are no kids involved. How the hell can they still collect?

She earned nothing, and contributed no way in the wealth, other than spending it.

BB

TTinCO · Feb 19, 2006

bigbet1234 said:
How could the wife get anything? She has her own job, living quaters and bank accounts. There are no kids involved. How the hell can they still collect?

She earned nothing, and contributed no way in the wealth, other than spending it.

BB

Doesn't matter. Get out the KY & spread them wide. That's just the way it works.

Journeyman · Feb 19, 2006

Still linked together by thsat piece of paper is why...hopefully you have a way to hide some of those bBig bets you win....you do not want to go to court with all that freaking paper work they expect you to bring.

I did everything I could to settle out of court, fortunately I had a seperate account not in my name I did a lot of business with my business partner, wife couldn't touch.

t3a · Feb 19, 2006

most states have some sort of official mediation, where people can go under the guise of trying to work things out. If you can get your ex to go to mediation BEFORE she gets a lawyer, or if she has any common sense, you might have a shot to convince her that you can work out an agreement. If the mediation office is sponsored by the state, you hope that the court would accept your agreement having proof that a medaitor looked at it and gave you some advice. Even if it is private mediator, it is worth a shot.

Once lawyers are involved though, forget any of that and prepare for hell

quantumleap · Feb 19, 2006

I would seriously suggest to anyone who may think they are about to get a divorce or who has a spouse who says they want a divorce to consult the services of a lawyer.

I had a friend whose wife told him she wanted a divorce. The next day he went to the best divorce lawyer in the city. The lawyer told him to apply for every credit card he could and to get cash advances for the limit. The wife was liable for half the balance and could not touch the cash that had been withdrawn.

Budworth22 · Feb 19, 2006

Consult Resident RX divorce expert Fat Tony!

t3a · Feb 19, 2006

quantumleap said:
I would seriously suggest to anyone who may think they are about to get a divorce or who has a spouse who says they want a divorce to consult the services of a lawyer.

I would agree up to the point of maybe paying for an hour of 'advice' just to hear the particular laws in your state so you don't do something really stupid. But if you get a lawyer involved in all of the paperwork and everything else you will end up paying out the ass regardless of what the lawyer tells you. If it is not through the court judgment, it will be through legal fees. One way or another you will spend more money with a lawyer.

If you could work something out with your ex that you both agree to, you are better off.

If you make an agreement and your finances change (like you hit the lotto) or something else, you could always go back and get a lawyer involved.

bigbet1234 · Feb 19, 2006

Say the wife thinks you're broke? you could all the sudden lose everything, go get some job for the time being, and live the life of average joe, grinding out a paycheck and paying my bills.

No laywers involved, we come to an agreement, and that's it. After the papers are signed, and the divorce is final, can she come back on you int he future? Or should you get the agreement signed?

BB

Journeyman · Feb 19, 2006

You could have all that written into the agreement...if she thinks you're broke and proceeds with an out of court settlement, you should be fine.

You mean to tell me the Earl Boykins jersey didn't do the trick?

dmmd98 · Feb 19, 2006

bigbet1234 said:
Say the wife thinks you're broke? you could all the sudden lose everything, go get some job for the time being, and live the life of average joe, grinding out a paycheck and paying my bills.

No laywers involved, we come to an agreement, and that's it. After the papers are signed, and the divorce is final, can she come back on you int he future? Or should you get the agreement signed?

BB

The wife may think you are broke but the wife's lawyer can see right see thru that and have an accountant go thru everything. If you get your wife to sign a divorce paper and its filed with the court then its final. It would be really hard to have it overturned unless you were clearly lying in anything you cliam in the divorce papers.

Doug · Feb 19, 2006

Get a Hitman !

QuickLearner · Feb 19, 2006

She's got a right to half of yours, but you have a right to half of hers, as well. Get a good lawyer for yourself. Then quickly go for a consultation with every other good lawyer in the county. Once you talk to them they can't take your wife's case. Heh heh heh.... try to stick her with a first-year lawyer.

bigbet1234 · Feb 19, 2006

Just getting some idea's is all.

BTW, wasn't a bad weekend, although these thoughts are always in the back of my mind.

Oh, yea, only 6 beers this weekend.

BB

Journeyman said:
You could have all that written into the agreement...if she thinks you're broke and proceeds with an out of court settlement, you should be fine.

You mean to tell me the Earl Boykins jersey didn't do the trick?

TANG · Feb 19, 2006

DougJ said:
Get a Hitman !

i will do it for $100,000 U.S

OR $125,000 CANADIAN

NOTE I AM NOT SERIOUS UNLESS YOUR WIFE IS JUNE JONES OR TIMMY CHANG

WCBias · Feb 19, 2006

All depends on your state laws. But I'll assume you are in a common law state. And you are in fairly good shape because no children are involved.

I could write a book on this particular topic...I'm six figures deep on over four lawyers doing nothing to help me and the bitch keeps coming back for more (yes, they have that right). But you will need a lawyer if your ex will not work it out and prepare to get hosed.

At minimum go pay for one consultation, know all of your and her financials, and see what the diso program poops out for spousal support. It may not be as bad as you think, and depending on the state, will only last for half of the time you were married (married 10 years support for five) Assets acquired during the marriage will be split in half to the point of separation, no ifs ands or buts. Anything you brought to the table before the date of marriage remains yours.

Then your best bet is to get together with your wife and as civilized as you can offer her less than what the program says you will pay (because you will pay it) and keep emphasizing you are saving her a lot of $$$$ on lawyer fees.

Just so you know, my ex-wife is worth twice as me, comes from a family worth 10's of millions, we split time evenly with our one child, and because she can afford not to work, every dollar more I make she is entitled too....and the courts keep making me pay her more. The system is screwed.