O/T Sex with buddies girl, tell or not?

aceduecetrey · Mar 8, 2006

I feel terrible, last night I was at a bar and having a good when a girl that I dont recognize asks me to dance. I am not much of a dancer, but she drags me out on the floor and is just rubbing all over me. We stop after 2 songs and she follows me to my table, I pour her some Goose and cran and ask her name. She got offended that I did already know. She whispers something in my ear and I pull her closer and she says my friends very distinct nickname. I then recognized her and decided to take it down a notch as she was my very good buddies girl. We continue to drink and I slip out to get another carafe of cranberry where I try calling my buddy and he does not answer. I went back and hung out with her for awhile and when the club closed she told me she needed a ride home. No problem and off we went. In the car all she is doing is coming on to me and I immediatly think of my friends stories about how incredible she was in bed. I get her about half way home and can not take it anymore and go to a hotel. We woke up at 9am and she wanted to go at it again. This time I resisted and called her a cab and made her promise not to mention it to anyone. Add to this that I am in a 9 month old relationship with a girl who she is decent friends with. I am not so concerned about the girl I am with as she knows I cheat from time to time, but she will not take it well that it was one of her friends.

Do I tell my buddy or not? He could easily kick my ass and I would probably let him as I deserve it, but I am concerned about our friendship after that.

WildBill · Mar 8, 2006

No matter what you do or say you are in a bad spot. I would just say let it go and hope it doesn't come back to kick your ass someday. Others would say do the right thing, but I don't see how that makes this shit all any better. If it gets out others get hurt and friendships are wrecked forever.

ClipJoint · Mar 8, 2006

:smoker2:

Kev · Mar 8, 2006

:nohead:

You DUMB FUCK.

Dawoofdaddy · Mar 8, 2006

Hopefully the chick has an ass like the ass in your avatar.

Goose has a way of corrupting people.

:shaking:

Insiders · Mar 8, 2006

BAD spot is not the word for this, its a DOUBLE BAD spot. As you know the girl is going to tell, sooner or laters, they Always do. She will tell her "best" friend who in turn will tell her "best" friend as sure enough it will get back to your girl. Then she will unload you and tell the other girls boyfriend.
Hate to say this, but you might have put "yourself" in the middle of nothing but Trouble for a while.
Maybe it was worth it? Time will tell.

BOL to you!

blueedwards · Mar 8, 2006

Kev said:
:nohead:

You DUMB FUCK.

ditto.

hate to say it ace but, you deserve whatever you get here.

ClipJoint · Mar 8, 2006

Eventually she will tell the guy...I would rather it come from me.

There will always be something that happens where the girl will tell...whether she gets pissed...finds out about him cheating...or feels guilty...one way or another, she will tell at some point.

I would tell the guy as bad as that will suck...:toast:

WildBill · Mar 8, 2006

In rereading it, the problem here is it appears she set you up for this. Meaning there is likely something she wants out of it. If it was a "oh we were drunk" thing she might be embarassed enough to keep it well under wraps. There are plenty of women good at keeping embarassing secrets hidden, but this isn't the situation.

The best thing to do in this spot is not tell anyone and if you get accused of it, call her a lying sack of shit. If she is up to devious stuff there probably are some who would wonder about this. It totally sounds like there is some ultimate goal behind it, so stay out of it but if you get implicated try your best to extricate yourself.

honzie · Mar 8, 2006

Very tough to push off a hot chick when both are buzzed, been there-regretted that! I sympathize. Worse thing here is that eventually this story gets around - sorry, but females don't keep these things under wraps for long, even if they do intend to keep it secret it just seems to get out. Good luck, maybe let your buddy find out in such away where he is not hearing everything at once, kind of diffuse the rage factor somehow. Good luck

D2bets · Mar 8, 2006

Hopefully your buddy doesn't know about the RX and connect the dots! :nohead:

blueedwards · Mar 8, 2006

D2bets said:
Hopefully your buddy doesn't know about the RX and connect the dots! :nohead:

:monsters-

jasin4000 · Mar 8, 2006

wow dude. I can gaurentee she told someone already....in these kind of stuations you HAVE TO say something to someone to get an opinion(like your doing right now)...just hope that she doesnt ask the wrong person for advice...:nohead:

jasin4000 · Mar 8, 2006

aceduecetrey said:
I feel terrible, last night I was at a bar and having a good when a girl that I dont recognize asks me to dance. I am not much of a dancer, but she drags me out on the floor and is just rubbing all over me. We stop after 2 songs and she follows me to my table, I pour her some Goose and cran and ask her name. She got offended that I did already know. She whispers something in my ear and I pull her closer and she says my friends very distinct nickname. I then recognized her and decided to take it down a notch as she was my very good buddies girl. We continue to drink and I slip out to get another carafe of cranberry where I try calling my buddy and he does not answer. I went back and hung out with her for awhile and when the club closed she told me she needed a ride home. No problem and off we went. In the car all she is doing is coming on to me and I immediatly think of my friends stories about how incredible she was in bed. I get her about half way home and can not take it anymore and go to a hotel. We woke up at 9am and she wanted to go at it again. This time I resisted and called her a cab and made her promise not to mention it to anyone. Add to this that I am in a 9 month old relationship with a girl who she is decent friends with. I am not so concerned about the girl I am with as she knows I cheat from time to time, but she will not take it well that it was one of her friends.

Do I tell my buddy or not? He could easily kick my ass and I would probably let him as I deserve it, but I am concerned about our friendship after that.

put yourself in his situation...would you be friends with him after he just hit up your girl?....maybe..maybe not, i guess it depends how good friends you are

sorry dude

JudgeWapner · Mar 8, 2006

Been in that position before. I chose to keep my mouth shut. Worked out fine. Except I didn't pork her.

WorldNumberOne · Mar 8, 2006

you probably lost a buddy and a girlfriend.

you probably gained a new girlfriend for about 2 weeks..

not to mention when its gets out some of your other buddies will always remember it.

Kiss1 · Mar 8, 2006

Just tell your buddy you are horrible at keeping secrets and ask him to sniff your finger.

THEPOSTMAN! · Mar 8, 2006

see you on

mike0187 · Mar 8, 2006

DO NOT tell your buddy. You f'ed up, but I think you will be fine. Chances are she does it somewhat often so she won't tell him. If you don't either, you are golden.

VaultedTreehouse · Mar 8, 2006

Hold on. The girl your with now doesn't care if you cheat from time to time?? What kind of dumb relationship is that?...At least you feel bad about this, though. there are lots of people who think this is no big deal.