Congratulations!! Children are the greatest give a person can be blessed with. I'm sure you're looking for short term advice, but I have long term.
Encouragement is key. Children are like flowers when you water them they grow. Spend time with them, teach them, honor them, celebrate them, have fun with them. Find out what their talents are early and give them encouragement.
Encouragement is key. Children are like flowers when you water them they grow. Spend time with them, teach them, honor them, celebrate them, have fun with them. Find out what their talents are early and give them encouragement.
Captain,
We had our first and only last May and I was also 40 years old. I think 40 is the perfect age for your first. May I recommend the book...."What to Expect the first Year". They'll have tons of copies on hand at any bookstore. We found the first three months to be the easiest....baby practically sleeps round the clock and not a whole lot to do except stare at him while he sleeps. Not a whole lot of heavy lifting. Also would recommend Lamaise (sp)classes. We took a series of four weekly classes and they put any fears we had to rest. I'm not a real sociable guy, but I have to admit that it's good to get together with other parents-to-be to discuss any fears or anxieties you have.
Best of luck!
We had our first and only last May and I was also 40 years old. I think 40 is the perfect age for your first. May I recommend the book...."What to Expect the first Year". They'll have tons of copies on hand at any bookstore. We found the first three months to be the easiest....baby practically sleeps round the clock and not a whole lot to do except stare at him while he sleeps. Not a whole lot of heavy lifting. Also would recommend Lamaise (sp)classes. We took a series of four weekly classes and they put any fears we had to rest. I'm not a real sociable guy, but I have to admit that it's good to get together with other parents-to-be to discuss any fears or anxieties you have.
Best of luck!
Congratulations - we had our first just under 2 years ago and my piece of advice is to enjoy it. I work from home so got to spend lots of time with our little son. If you have that opportunity take it as that time never comes back. Starting as late as you have stick to one child.
As for parenting techniques early on Tracy Hogg "The baby whisperer" seems the most common sense approach.
As for parenting techniques early on Tracy Hogg "The baby whisperer" seems the most common sense approach.
I got alot of asswippins growing up. My grandparents and aunts were even in on it during summer breaks. Can't really say it did much for my character. What I do remember is my parents asking if my homework was done everyday and getting me involved in recreational sports, art classes, you name it. That built my character.dsethi said:
My advice is when people tell you they have advice for you...say you have a short memory and can only remember 1 piece of advice so ask them to give you their absolutely best piece of advice. That way you aren't bombarded with useless info.
Ok that being said, because I gave you that piece of gold, I get to give you 2.
When the baby is born the only thing you have to do is support the mother, make sure she is comfortable, the baby is going to just want to eat and sleep for the first while. So keep the mrs happy and you'll be good.
That and take lots of Pictures the first 6 months is a blur.
Ok that being said, because I gave you that piece of gold, I get to give you 2.
When the baby is born the only thing you have to do is support the mother, make sure she is comfortable, the baby is going to just want to eat and sleep for the first while. So keep the mrs happy and you'll be good.
That and take lots of Pictures the first 6 months is a blur.
congrats capt!...
yeah my advise is log OFF the RX and get some sleep...im fact sleep for at least 24 hrs straight...when that baby is Born KISS your SLEEP goodbye....and the irony is ...when the kid gets older and he can sleep later YOU are so used to NO sleep you can not :toast: trust me BEEN there done that
yeah my advise is log OFF the RX and get some sleep...im fact sleep for at least 24 hrs straight...when that baby is Born KISS your SLEEP goodbye....and the irony is ...when the kid gets older and he can sleep later YOU are so used to NO sleep you can not :toast: trust me BEEN there done that
Congratulations. Patience, Patience, Patience, They will test you but the rewards out weigh the trying times. POWER naps also.
One other thing and this was my experiece (maybe some other can relate) but if its a boy don't let the wife watch him get circumsize, WOW was she pissed at me for having that done to him.
One other thing and this was my experiece (maybe some other can relate) but if its a boy don't let the wife watch him get circumsize, WOW was she pissed at me for having that done to him.
Dante said:
This is SO true. Can't nap anymore even when there is time, and for the first three years, one ear was always trained on my daughter at night. Agree with King too, if you don't have a digital camera, get one!
If you have any "projects" you were hoping to get done in your lifetime like painting the house, DO THEM NOW. Don't think for a minute you're ever gonna have a better time to do them than right now. Everything takes 10 times longer when you have a kid.
It's the best and hardest thing you will ever do, by far on both accounts.
And the best piece of advice I got, the one thing I try to hang onto when my brain and body are so shot that I can only remember one thing is to always let your eyes light up when your kid comes in the room. That will go a long way in a kid's heart and do wonders for their self-esteem. They can live through and forgive a LOT of your mistakes if they know your heart jumps when you see them.
Good luck with the delivery. Oh and one other thing. If your wife nurses, ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS get her a glass of ice water when she starts to feed the baby. She won't think of it before she starts, cause she's focused on the baby. And there is absolutely no thirstier moment in a person's life; you will get MAJOR bonus points for doing this one little thing consistently and you'll make a physically and emotionally demanding job easier for her.
Congrats!
aside from getting sleep and sex in very small doses for the next six months...one thing no one told me was that your wife will be so emotional for the first few weeks after the kid is born, it will shock you. my wife was not mean or anything but, she cried like 6 times a day for no reason.
you should probably get ready for that and do something nice like bring home flowers and a mushy card at some point during the first week. she'll tell her mother and all her friends and you'll be a hero.
you should probably get ready for that and do something nice like bring home flowers and a mushy card at some point during the first week. she'll tell her mother and all her friends and you'll be a hero.
Congrats!
That was what I post 6 months ago.
Mine just turns 6months.
For bottles, buy Avent. That is the best.
Dont get Dr. browns. <--- best but hard to clean.
Avent is the best choice.
Be rdy to drink coffee. lol.
will not sleep much.
I just don't know how my wife and I handled past 6 months.
phew!!!
GL and enjoy.
That was what I post 6 months ago.
Mine just turns 6months.
For bottles, buy Avent. That is the best.
Dont get Dr. browns. <--- best but hard to clean.
Avent is the best choice.
Be rdy to drink coffee. lol.
will not sleep much.
I just don't know how my wife and I handled past 6 months.
phew!!!
GL and enjoy.
Congrats, man! My wife is currently pregnant with our 3rd child, the first two being 1 and 2 yrs old. Also I've got an 11 year-old from a previous marriage.
Most important advice to keep your sanity: learn to distinguish the various types of cries and act accordingly. A very typical type is shortly before bedtime...they cry because of general crankiness and tiredness but they don't want to go to sleep yet. You try feeding, they reject it. Same with the pacifier. You look at the diaper, it's clean. So what could it be? Usually it's nothing and if you wait about 15 min. they fall asleep.
If you (or your wife) keep picking them up and giving attention they will get dependent on this and you will have many a sleepless night.
This is the key to having sweet kids vs. pouty/snotty/whiny kids IMO although a lot of people will disagree, especially those with pouty/snotty/whiny kids. A lot of people have trouble accepting responsibility for stuff and would rather chalk it up to chance.
Just my 2c. Good luck in any case.
Most important advice to keep your sanity: learn to distinguish the various types of cries and act accordingly. A very typical type is shortly before bedtime...they cry because of general crankiness and tiredness but they don't want to go to sleep yet. You try feeding, they reject it. Same with the pacifier. You look at the diaper, it's clean. So what could it be? Usually it's nothing and if you wait about 15 min. they fall asleep.
If you (or your wife) keep picking them up and giving attention they will get dependent on this and you will have many a sleepless night.
This is the key to having sweet kids vs. pouty/snotty/whiny kids IMO although a lot of people will disagree, especially those with pouty/snotty/whiny kids. A lot of people have trouble accepting responsibility for stuff and would rather chalk it up to chance.
Just my 2c. Good luck in any case.
