Your Significant Other/Spouse just past away.....

Valuebets · Feb 21, 2007

Okay heres a serious question I was wondering about for a long time.

Lets say if god forbid, your bf/gf or spouse sadly past away. How long would you mourn for their death before you get yourself back into the meat market.

Honestly, I like to believe in soul mates and I probably would retire permanately from the meat market if my future wife sadly dies prematurely.

2PLAYSMAX · Feb 21, 2007

Not sure, but its even harder when you got kids in common as well.

Be a long long time for me personally.

Journeyman · Feb 21, 2007

Hard to say for sure..I would think atleast a good year, maybe two, maybe never.

If i was over 60 I doubt i would even bother again...one of biggest fears would be to lose a wife around age 60 and have to look for an old lady....It's one thing to grow old together but to have to look at that age, I dunno.

joeyfitzclick · Feb 21, 2007

In Ireland you would marry the sister.

michael777 · Feb 21, 2007

everyone is different,some will mourn much longer than others

RaoulDuke · Feb 21, 2007

I'd just marry my mistress.............

barman · Feb 21, 2007

Yeah...odds of both the Beloved Spousal Unit and the Side Cooze dying at same time are remote.

SkinsRaj28 · Feb 21, 2007

Just depends on the people, how close they were, etc. I don't think everyone who gets married truly feels that connection that others do.

teazeman · Feb 21, 2007

the companionship gained from a spouse or significant other is often underestimated, loneliness often leads to depression and anxiety. the older people that are alone, at least the ones i know, always seem to be the most unhappy.

WCBias · Feb 21, 2007

My wife would want me to get right back out on the horse, and quite frankly, I'd want her to also. Life is about experiences, unfortunately, losing loved ones is part of the process. It might take 6 months, a year, two years, but you gotta move on and live your life....you will always be able to cherish your memories.

Now losing a kid...I might not recover from that one.

PatPatriot · Feb 21, 2007

In Ireland you would marry the sister.

i sort of did that once while the wife was alive.

BostonBettor · Feb 21, 2007

WC Bias said:
My wife would want me to get right back out on the horse, and quite frankly, I'd want her to also. Life is about experiences, unfortunately, losing loved ones is part of the process. It might take 6 months, a year, two years, but you gotta move on and live your life....you will always be able to cherish your memories.

Now losing a kid...I might not recover from that one.

Well said. Of course in my case, I'm getting old enough that I'd probably fall off the horse.

VIEJODINOSAUR · Feb 21, 2007

WC Bias said it best.......gotta move on, your spouse would want you to....

PublicsMoney · Feb 22, 2007

Valuebets said:
Okay heres a serious question I was wondering about for a long time.

Lets say if god forbid, your bf/gf or spouse sadly past away. How long would you mourn for their death before you get yourself back into the meat market.

Honestly, I like to believe in soul mates and I probably would retire permanately from the meat market if my future wife sadly dies prematurely.

Lost my wife at the young age of 24. She was my High School Sweetheart and best friend. It was and will be one of the most devastating things that has happenend to me. It took me nearly a year to even think about dating someone again. When I started getting to know this other girl(who now is my wife) I was never able to be myself for at least 2 years. I was always concerned about how everyone else around me felt when I did start having a relationship again. To this day which is 10.5 years ago...there isnt a day that goes by that I dont think about my first wife. Life is short. Enjoy it to the fullest.

Pubs

PublicsMoney · Feb 22, 2007

I now have a 2.5 year old daughter with my wife now and I could not imagine losing her. Losing a child........might be worse. I absolutly love her more than anything in this world.

WCBias · Feb 22, 2007

PublicsMoney said:
I now have a 2.5 year old daughter with my wife now and I could not imagine losing her. Losing a child........might be worse. I absolutly love her more than anything in this world.

Amen brother, sorry to hear about your loss, but happy to hear you landed on your feet.

I honestly think a person does not know unconditional love until they have children. There will be issues with parents, lovers, friends, even when you think there are none. There are no issues with your children. At least not until they are independant (mine are 8 and 2).

Losing a child is the biggest fear in my life.

geeze · Feb 22, 2007

Dante · Feb 22, 2007

I think people will mourn at different lengths of time I know that there would not be another beautfiul lady like they one I married in the world if mine died to ever to put up with my dumb azz again ...that is for sure

Woody0 · Feb 22, 2007

teazeman said:
the companionship gained from a spouse or significant other is often underestimated, loneliness often leads to depression and anxiety. the older people that are alone, at least the ones i know, always seem to be the most unhappy.

Good points. Being over 60 I think I would get a dog, my wife never wanted one whereas I was 3 when my parents got one.