ok, so i met this girl and I think shes pretty great. She's motivated to the extreme, wants to go to med school, very sweet. Definitely not your typical bar slut. this ones a keeper. So I take her out for sushi last night and we are talking and laughing and everything is going great and in the back of my mind I'm wondering how we are progressing, if shes into me or not. So finally when dinner is over we hug goodnight and go on our ways. Well, I had to know so I texted her and asked if she felt there was any chemistry. I know that was prob a no no but not knowing would have been worse. She replied, "thats not something you are supposed to ask a gril, lol". that was her exact text back. So then I told her I asked because I like to know if a girl is interested rather than finding out a couple of weeks later that she is not. She replied, "I honestly cant say, as I dont like to rush things". So, I wrote her and said, "sounds like a no to me". I was going to leave it at that but she immediately called me and said its not that, its just that she doesnt rush things. So guys does this mean anything? I've never really dated a "good girl". Is she playing hard to get? Is it maybe that guys arent so important to her as shes tryingto do med school? or think shes just not interested?
Yup. Sometimes the key thing in life is buying a little more time - you acted too quick. She probably wasnt swept away by you but then again you may not be out of picture -- hope she doesn't meet a prince charming this week for your sake. DO NOT send flowers or chocs this week - be casual and cool, but not too cool>>>
Remember chicks like guys that are confident and cool and there is a fine line with that, if you are a phony trying to act cool she will see thru it.
Be confident in yourself. Almost act like you don't care but don't be dick. Girls want what they can't have. Confidence!!!!
Next time take her out to a place where you look like the man, amongst your friends and tell those guys to make you look cool and not cock block you. Get a few drinks in both you, it will ease the tension and it is alot easier to speak your true feelings with a few beers in ya for both of you. Remeber it is all about timing in life. Take your time, you will know when the right time is to make your moves.
Dont call her until she calls you first because you already made the first weak move.
A know it is a game but one you have to play to get the ball up and rolling. Chicks are scared of all that stalking stuff nowadays so just show confidence and eventually she will get to know the true you.
Be confident in yourself. Almost act like you don't care but don't be dick. Girls want what they can't have. Confidence!!!!
Next time take her out to a place where you look like the man, amongst your friends and tell those guys to make you look cool and not cock block you. Get a few drinks in both you, it will ease the tension and it is alot easier to speak your true feelings with a few beers in ya for both of you. Remeber it is all about timing in life. Take your time, you will know when the right time is to make your moves.
Dont call her until she calls you first because you already made the first weak move.
A know it is a game but one you have to play to get the ball up and rolling. Chicks are scared of all that stalking stuff nowadays so just show confidence and eventually she will get to know the true you.
Poor game. Sack up man. When you start believing the fact that YOU are the prize you won't worry about texting her to find out if she feels it. If she does, great. If not, her loss. You went out on one date. Relax and just go with the flow. It doesn't matter when you call her. Do you really think she is going to think "wow this guy called me sunday, he must be so cool . . . he has so many things to do over the weekend. . . i think I am starting to like him . . . or this guy called me the next day . . . what a loser. . . he is obviously really desperate . . ." Would you react like that regarding a phone call. Would any sane person. The best thing you can do is prove and act like you are worth having. If you can do that, then she will like you, regardless of what day you call her.
Thanks Ice, yeah, this situation is so new to me. I've never tried a "good girl" before and dont know howto act. I'm used to the girls that give it up right away and being able to call em whenever I want. With these "good girls", I feel like a high school kid, "young dumb, and full of cum"
Sorry bud but think you blew it. Thats the most used line by girls when they're not head over heels about you but you're head over heels about them.
You just weakly surrendered your home court now you just got to be patient and wait for her to relinquish her homecourt. Just wait for her to call and she doesn't then just accept the defeat. If she's still somewhat interested then I'm sure you will call you. But please don't torture yourself too much about it. Everyone of us did something like this before.
Another thing she said on the phone was that she couldnt tell yet as she doesnt go by looks. she said there are tons of good looking guys out there so, that doesnt matter to her. Guess she thought i was cute, but anyhow, to that I responded, "i'm not asking if you felt a physical chemistry, I mean chemistry in general". I should also mention that she has a 1yr old daughter. Are girls with kids harder to get because they are not just thinking about themselves but also their kids? I dont want to be this girls serious boyfriend but it sure would be fun to date her for awhile and see what its like to hook up with a good girl.
should definitely have not texted after the date asking how things went or if there was chemisty etc...then going back and forth with calls etc...thats a no-no...at worst you shoulda waited until the next day and then text her or email and said hey, i had a good time last night etc etc...
as hard as it might be bc you obviously are into her...mentally try to write it off and dont BOTHER her...like others said, you are already coming off as boderline desperate...and girls dont want stalkers...if she calls, she calls...take her out again...
then if things go well on that date...BEFORE you part ways tell her "i had a really great time tonight, if your interested id like to see you again, call me" thats all you have to do is state the facts, short and to the point so she knows where you stand.....then the ball is in her court and you dont come off as needy/desperate etc
A) i had a great time tonight
B) if your interested
C) CALL ME
you shoulda said that after the 1st date
gl
as hard as it might be bc you obviously are into her...mentally try to write it off and dont BOTHER her...like others said, you are already coming off as boderline desperate...and girls dont want stalkers...if she calls, she calls...take her out again...
then if things go well on that date...BEFORE you part ways tell her "i had a really great time tonight, if your interested id like to see you again, call me" thats all you have to do is state the facts, short and to the point so she knows where you stand.....then the ball is in her court and you dont come off as needy/desperate etc
A) i had a great time tonight
B) if your interested
C) CALL ME
you shoulda said that after the 1st date
gl
