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<LEGEND><LABEL for=cb_receivepm>Private Messaging</LABEL></LEGEND><TABLE cellSpacing=3 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD>This forum features a
private messaging system, which allows members to send messages to one another privately.
If you do not want to send or receive private messages, you may disable the private messaging system. </TD></TR><TR><TD><LABEL for=cb_receivepm><INPUT id=cb_receivepm onclick="toggle_disabled(this.checked, 'pmoptions')" type=checkbox CHECKED value=1 name=options[receivepm]>Enable Private Messaging</LABEL></TD></TR><TBODY id=pmoptions><TR><TD>
You may limit the receipt of private messages to just moderators and those on your
buddy list. Other members who attempt to send messages to you will be told that you have disabled private messaging.</TD></TR><TR><TD><LABEL for=cb_receivepmbuddies><INPUT id=cb_receivepmbuddies type=checkbox CHECKED value=1 name=options[receivepmbuddies]>Receive Private Messages only from Buddies and Moderators</LABEL></TD></TR><TR><TD>
The forum can send a message to your email address to inform you when someone sends you a private message.</TD></TR><TR><TD><LABEL for=cb_emailonpm><INPUT id=cb_emailonpm type=checkbox CHECKED value=1 name=options[emailonpm]>Receive Email Notification of New Private Messages</LABEL></TD></TR><TR><TD>
If you are browsing the forums when you receive a new private message, the system can pop-up a notification box informing you of the new message.</TD></TR><TR><TD><LABEL for=cb_pmpopup><INPUT id=cb_pmpopup type=checkbox CHECKED value=1 name=pmpopup>Show New Private Message Notification Pop-up</LABEL></TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>