Anybody had a good relationship with an In-Law that went to Sh#$ over a certain incident ?

2PLAYSMAX · Oct 20, 2009

I had a decent relationship with my mother in law. To be honest it was very good. Even got to the point where we were able to drink together. But I lost my father back in November of 07 and then I lost my father-in-law back in February of 09. Between me and my wife we had chosen the first name of my son to be my fathers first name & my father-in-law's name to be his middle name. This actually was decided upon before my father had even passed and everybody was cool with it. Well since my father-in-law passed my mother in law started taking issue with my son's name who was born in June of this year being named after my dad for his first name. It's bad to the point that she won't even use the name when referring to my son. She will call him my grandson, he, him, & recently started using a nickname. This has put us at odds and I am basically done with her. I still help out with chores like some shit she may need around the house and cutting grass, but the whole being cool with each other is now gone. When we do get together for things casual like cookouts you can tell it's forced.

Anyone been through some bullshit incident with an in-law that made you say to hell with them?

bigtendominator · Oct 20, 2009

2PLAYSMAX said:
I had a decent relationship with my mother in law. To be honest it was very good. Even got to the point where we were able to drink together. But I lost my father back in November of 07 and then I lost my father-in-law back in February of 09. Between me and my wife we had chosen the first name of my son to be my fathers first name & my father-in-law's name to be his middle name. This actually was decided upon before my father had even passed and everybody was cool with it. Well since my father-in-law passed my mother in law started taking issue with my son's name who was born in June of this year being named after my dad for his first name. It's bad to the point that she won't even use the name when referring to my son. She will call him my grandson, he, him, & recently started using a nickname. This has put us at odds and I am basically done with her. I still help out with chores like some shit she may need around the house and cutting grass, but the whole being cool with each other is now gone. When we do get together for things casual like cookouts you can tell it's forced.

Anyone been through some bullshit incident with an in-law that made you say to hell with them?

Simple solution. Tell her to take a picture of Junior, because that is the last time you are going to see him.

2PLAYSMAX · Oct 20, 2009

bigtendominator said:
Simple solution. Tell her to take a picture of Junior, because that is the last time you are going to see him.

I wish, but unfortunately her and my wife have one of those over the top close daughter/best friend relationships. Talk on the phone 4 times a day. Before work, lunch break, after work, & before bed. I can't stand that shit. Wife has just started to realize how over dependent her mom is. Calls my wife to help her pay bills, relationship advice, dvr help, cpu help, & rides to and from work at least once a week.

hno:

I have considered moving out of state just to get my family away from her.

JimmyDetroit · Oct 20, 2009

My relationship is great with the inlaws, I see them twice a year and love it!!!

2PLAYSMAX · Oct 20, 2009

okstate said:
My relationship is great with the inlaws, I see them twice a year and love it!!!

:lol:Great I love IT!

GilRenard · Oct 20, 2009

Originally Posted by okstate View Post
My relationship is great with the inlaws, I see them twice a year and love it!!!

So true it's not even funny.

With my kids, I've made it a point - even against the wife's objections- to never name our kids after anyone in either of our families. I don't even want to use the name of friends/acquaintances.

barman · Oct 20, 2009

Brother, you better start making plans to get your own residence.

Keep your nose clean so that when your wife refuses to respect the boundaries you request regarding the ma-in-law's time in your house and with kid, you don't have problems in divorce court.

2PLAYSMAX · Oct 20, 2009

Yeah. My wife understands all my issues with her mother and has told me within the past week she intends to scale back the relationship she has with her mom.

The problem is her mom is a self-centered somebody who is very dependent. So her mother will get offended by this scale back and make a comment like "Oh I see. Well you go be happy with your family. I don't need you." But she says it with the intention of manipulating my wife back into her web. So I have already put my wife on standby about this ploy. I use to deal with her ways, until she pulled this name bullshit with my son. I forgot to mention she called me and my wife selfish for robbing her of this moment when we named him after my dad. Her moment like it was her kid. WTF?? My wife is an only child whom my mom-in-law was banking on being a boy. So when this 1st grandson shit happened she is trying to relive her life. Fuck that.

Oh one more thing she is grieving. But she opted out of the free grief counseling her job offered her. So I have no pity. Most of her grief comes from the fact that she cheated on her husband and moved out with the guy. She ended up breaking up with the dude she moved out with and her husband took her back 6 months before he passed. So she is trying to fight for his cause to make up for her guilt.