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Went out last nite with a group here to dinner and to bars afterwood in a limo where we could drink and not have to worry about driving.My question here to the group in this, either you are on the marry side or the single side, do you find when you party in a group with marry couples now they are getting more bored to be with as the married years add up for them.A good example say like 1 am when most parties are getting going they need to call it a nite etc.Maybe some people never need to be marry and i made be one of them but seem like a boring life to me...........ck
 

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Went out last nite with a group here to dinner and to bars afterwood in a limo where we could drink and not have to worry about driving.My question here to the group in this, either you are on the marry side or the single side, do you find when you party in a group with marry couples now they are getting more bored to be with as the married years add up for them.A good example say like 1 am when most parties are getting going they need to call it a nite etc.Maybe some people never need to be marry and i made be one of them but seem like a boring life to me...........ck

Yes, you can sugar coat it any way you like but this is true to a tee - eventually you will realize after several years of marriage your friends are no longer your friends - yes, their lives are boring but that the same time they may actually just enjoy being with their wife and doing nothing at home - throw kids into the mix and the chances of them even going out are remote
 

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You are right imo Seymore with that statement too.I guess over the yrs i have seen too many people i know marry into a perfect thing, only to find out a few yrs down the road it was not so perfect.but again i guess i not the marry type but to wake up each day with the same spouse to me would get old fast ..ck
 

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Priorities change with age. I still like going out and kicking it out on occasion, but for the most part prefer being at home.
 

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Priorities change with age. I still like going out and kicking it out on occasion, but for the most part prefer being at home.

I was out with the boys last night and about an hour in I was ready to head home.

I never thought I would be that guy. I used to love going out, now makes no difference.
 

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T, when I finally make it down there I will personally show you how a 50 year old guy can still rock steady until almost 1am
 

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Lol. Bar, of that, I have no doubt. Got VD coming into town next month. Am resting my liver till then.
 

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It's a matter of preference and opinion and as does everyone, I have one too.

As a married guy, i do not share the whole boring outlook some of you have expressed. I have been married for about 15 years and have 3 children and there is nothing boring about our life together. Of course things have changed since I was single and of course one must accept the responsibility of entering marriage and having children. Of course it is no longer just my life, rather our life. I am still able to hang out with buddies and make the 45 minute flight to Vegas a few times a year, however, getting piss drunk every other night just doesn't do it for me anymore. not sure it ever did. Went on a cruise several months ago with friends and we partied with the best of them which, for me, is cool once in a while, not every other day though.

Being a part of my wife and childrens lives, taking part in guiding my childrens' growth, watching them compete in sports/karate, taking part in celebrating awards at school, taking part and helping my oldest daughter work through her first "heartbreak", only to have her tell me all her intimate secrets because i am the "best dad in the world" and the "coolest dad". It's the life for me and certainly more fulfilling then stumbling in at 4 am having just nailed an Asian and a Latina.

One fond memory is my son and I fishing just after dawn and watching an eagle circle round and swoop down on a fish. Watched it with my son and in dead silence as not another person was around. Told him that a person can go their whole life without seeing that, let alone share it with a son. I am glad I wasn't hung over that morning or sleeping it off until the afternnon that day.

Again, to each his own but you should not state as fact that one is boring or one is better than the other.
 

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the single life gets very old as one ages. Marriage is a tough decision and I got burned big time. However, I learned what I really want, need, and desire and will never settle for anything less. My life revolves around my 2 boys who I would not trade anything for. Experiences, challenges, ups and downs you will never get if single. (having kids)

I could still kick it with the kids for an evening out. However, I prefer to wake early and enjoy the day. Partying would prevent that. I can be just as alive, daring, foolish, stupid, and funny with or without alcohol. I just know my limits these days.

Party up boys, just dont stick the keys in the ignition.
 

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I'm part of the single crew but have seen both sides from working in a bar for years. Most of the married couples with kids have to leave early thanks to babysitter. CK, what is hard to watch is the married ones acting like they are single, especially if they are cheating. I have no symphathy for those who do.
 

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Used to go out and party with the boys about 3 days a week. Now it's maybe 1-2 beers a month if that. I think what happened with me at least is finding a partner that I enjoy being with and actually would rather stay at home watching a movie with her over going out and spending a bunch of money all the time. I like to go to the gym in the morning and a hangover just won't allow for that.

Then there's the age thing. Once you hit your 30's and have a career and really can't afford to get a DUI (could end your career) then your priorities change. If your wife has a job that can't allow for a dead-beat husband that just gives you added incentive to do more than just go out all the time. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy hitting the poker tables still and having a beer or two with the boys but I just don't cross the line anymore because there's too much to lose.

Finally, there's the children. I enjoy spending time with them so much and enjoy watching them grow physically and intellectually. I would much rather spend some time with them then to spend a bunch of money and get drunk. It just is what it is. I don't want to miss out on their childhood. I'd rather shoot hoops with them or help them read or whatever.

It's just a matter of balance and where you are in life. I don't look down on the young single guys but it's just not for me any longer.
 

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Yep it no wrong side imo, for a lot of people the married thing with the kids is the only way to go, even if i was married i would not want any kids, it for a lot of people just not for me.i have a lot going on and just dont have the time to be with kids etc.A time ago if you was not married by the time you was 30, a lot of people call you a loser, just happy that not the case anymore.I know a lot of people that got married and it did not work out and they said they would never get marry again i guess they had to take the chance to find out....
 

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Yep it no wrong side imo, for a lot of people the married thing with the kids is the only way to go, even if i was married i would not want any kids, it for a lot of people just not for me.i have a lot going on and just dont have the time to be with kids etc.A time ago if you was not married by the time you was 30, a lot of people call you a loser, just happy that not the case anymore.I know a lot of people that got married and it did not work out and they said they would never get marry again i guess they had to take the chance to find out....

Yep, I think I could care less for kids and don't have the energy for them but would like to find a gf - for real gf - just one girl and see where it goes - no cheating or anything - to me if u have a gf and ur committed what's the dif if ur married?

Last year I had a young gf that was all giggly about marriage and shit - her mother told her (referring to me), he's 36 and single because he wants to be - about 2 days later she never called me again and moved in with a 26 year old guy that bought her a puppy dog the first week

No one has been dumped by more girls than me - I average at least 6 a year - they're just like good bye sir

These girls are forcing me to change my game and I'm not sure what I should do
 
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Yep, I think I could care less for kids and don't have the energy for them but would like to find a gf - for real gf - just one girl and see where it goes - no cheating or anything - to me if u have a gf and ur committed what's the dif if ur married?

Last year I had a young gf that was all giggly about marriage and shit - her mother told her (referring to me), he's 36 and single because he wants to be - about 2 days later she never called me again and moved in with a 26 year old guy that bought her a puppy dog the first week

No one has been dumped by more girls than me - I average at least 6 a year - they're just like good bye sir

These girls are forcing me to change my game and I'm not sure what I should do

never change anything for a woman. change things because you want to.

sick to see some people i know change/give up so much shit they love, only to watch their selfish girlfriends carry on and do whatever the fuck they want.
 

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Women are fine and I definitely respect the guys on this board who say they love watching their kids grow physically and intellectually. However, I don't really like kids that much and I can't imagine ever having any. Way too much responsibility and way too expensive in 2010. Also way too much to do bucket list wise and other options than to be tied down with 2-3 rugrats controlling your life.

Just my 2 cents, although I'm young and dumb so I might be wrong and reserve the right to change my mind.
 

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