My Mom's dad was one of the grumpiest people I ever met. When she was young her older sister left to become a nun so she could get out of the house.
With that being said, we regularly went back to visit him. Hey, he was family. He wasn't abusive or anything, just unpleasant to be around but family is family. Sometimes you have to learn to deal with things like that.
With that being said, we regularly went back to visit him. Hey, he was family. He wasn't abusive or anything, just unpleasant to be around but family is family. Sometimes you have to learn to deal with things like that.
Inlaws count?
Hardcore issues with them in the following departments:
Eves dropping
Gossiping
Manipulating
Telling flat out lies
Spreading rumors
Overstepping their bounds
Being nosey
Parlay in that they are uneducated.
Actually told one of them to "f off and get a job" at the dinner table once. Let's just say it was a very quiet meal after that.
Hardcore issues with them in the following departments:
Eves dropping
Gossiping
Manipulating
Telling flat out lies
Spreading rumors
Overstepping their bounds
Being nosey
Parlay in that they are uneducated.
Actually told one of them to "f off and get a job" at the dinner table once. Let's just say it was a very quiet meal after that.
Had an Aunt who was always digging at me....I guess she got fun out of trying to push my buttons. Recently I got tired of playing the respect your elders card and told her off in as nice a way as possible. Since then she has been kind and respectful. I guess some people will do it as long as you let them.
To answer your question i think it all depends on how close of a relative itis to you. The reason I say that is because I have a sister who takes so much cash off me I should have the letters ATM tattooed to my forehead. For some reason even when I want to say no I can't and I just cave everytime regardless of how much she already owes me. i'm guessing it's because she's my only sibling sowe have some kind of special bond which is why I say it all depends on how close of a relative it is to you. If this were any other family member other than my only sister I wouldn't be nearly as generous. Hope this helps?
That's the way it was with my parents before my Dad died. They were always trying to tell me what to do. So much so that I avoided them except for holidays which weren't too bad because there were so many other people they could tell what to do.
My Mom seemed to change after my Dad died. However, a few months ago she told me she thought I gained weight so I just told her matter-of-factly that she shouldn't be making criticisms about my weight. I didn't get mad at her or yell at her. I just told her like an adult. She hasn't said anything like that the last few times I saw her.
I don't know if saying anything to her will help your mom. Maybe she'll get the idea or maybe she'll just get mad. Do you think it would do any good to say something to her?
Well, you could always call the gas, electric, cable, water, etc , claim to be the relative who's being a pain in the ass (will need to know tel# and poss ss# of the relative), somewhere around the middle of December and tell them that on Dec. 24th, you're moving to Florida (Costa Rica, anywhere, really) for the winter, and you need your utilities shut off.
Don't forget to mention that, Oh yeah, and by the way, my son & daughter are terrible kids, use drugs, etc and they may call you and claiming to be me to try and get the utilities turned back on. Since "your son/daughter" is always getting in trouble and you don't want them staying at your place while you're away, and the only way to do that is to have the utilities off. So, if they call and claim to be me (although you are impersonating the ass relative) to get the utility turned back on. Don't do it - matter of fact, lets setup a password that unless I give you the password don't turn anything back on.
Anyway, do you have any idea how hard it is to get your utilities turned back on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day? Just about impossible. Can make for one hell of a shitty holiday, ya know what I mean?
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Disclaimer - the above is only an example of how to be mean and should NOT be done & is NOT recommended to be done
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And then there is always the $5.00 donation that can be sent to the xxx religion that is looking to "save" people, along with a note saying you need help but don't know where to turn. You're an "early morning person" but since you work Monday - Saturday the best day to call / show up is Sunday. And again, since you're a morning person, 8:00am right on the dot is great to get in touch with me.
Once those guys see money, look out, they'll never stop coming back
Don't forget to mention that, Oh yeah, and by the way, my son & daughter are terrible kids, use drugs, etc and they may call you and claiming to be me to try and get the utilities turned back on. Since "your son/daughter" is always getting in trouble and you don't want them staying at your place while you're away, and the only way to do that is to have the utilities off. So, if they call and claim to be me (although you are impersonating the ass relative) to get the utility turned back on. Don't do it - matter of fact, lets setup a password that unless I give you the password don't turn anything back on.
Anyway, do you have any idea how hard it is to get your utilities turned back on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day? Just about impossible. Can make for one hell of a shitty holiday, ya know what I mean?
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Disclaimer - the above is only an example of how to be mean and should NOT be done & is NOT recommended to be done
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And then there is always the $5.00 donation that can be sent to the xxx religion that is looking to "save" people, along with a note saying you need help but don't know where to turn. You're an "early morning person" but since you work Monday - Saturday the best day to call / show up is Sunday. And again, since you're a morning person, 8:00am right on the dot is great to get in touch with me.
Once those guys see money, look out, they'll never stop coming back
accept people for what they are and certainly don't worry about pleasing such a person
be civil, take the high road, but don't give a damn about what they may think or say
if you don't respect a person, they shouldn't bother you
be civil, take the high road, but don't give a damn about what they may think or say
if you don't respect a person, they shouldn't bother you
