Have a friend that I know many years and one of our other friends struggles and has major depression etc..anyways these 2 talk every day for at least an hour or so....one guy is making 225k a year and never helps him out at all...not even on his bday or holidays to buy him clothes..yet he spends 200 plus for dinners...this ok with you...i think it's a selfish act to a high level....
Your going to have to give me a lot more info then you did for me to answer.
But based on what little you gave me, The guy that makes 225K a year that does not give the depressed guy money does not make him evil on that alone.
Money will not solve this guys depression.
It is not the 225K's guys job to give the depressed guy money.
Is Bill Gates an evil guy for not giving me a million bucks if I send him an email with a sob story?
You cant possibly believe that can you?
But based on what little you gave me, The guy that makes 225K a year that does not give the depressed guy money does not make him evil on that alone.
Money will not solve this guys depression.
It is not the 225K's guys job to give the depressed guy money.
Is Bill Gates an evil guy for not giving me a million bucks if I send him an email with a sob story?
You cant possibly believe that can you?
your friend that makes 225 is paying for programs through the govt your depressed friend should be using. if he is truly a friend his annual salary should never be brought into any conversation. dont blame someone for making a nice living. the more you give money to people who dont try usually the more they look for a handout it is just easier. what you and your successful friend should be doing if you really care is to do some research into what programs are available to your depressed friend. when he shits on every idea you throw at him you will no who the real problem is. by the way i have not been the successful one in this story i have been your friend minus the depression until your friend pulls his head out of his own ass nothing will help. just my 2cents.
I think the people who are well off and do very well should share there good fortune. If you give money to some idiot who walk 30 feet to give you food, give money to church, donate money to charity..then if your making awesome money you should help or be generous to people who are crucial in your life. If people were not giving, many more would suffer and the world would be a much worse place. I guess giving xmas gifts to some super in a bldg is more important then helping loved ones/close friends..didn;t say support the guy...how bout giving him a 50 dollar gift card.
I know there gonna be a lot of people saying hell no, but I have a pretty tight circle of friends, we all make different levels of incomes, all in different phases of our life, but we all are supportive....
If that was happening in my group of friends and they been tight for a long while, then I definitely think its fucked up. But that's my personal opinion...
If the 225k a year guy has money problems or something, then ok, whatever... Also, the 225k guy shouldn't be expect to help pay the other rent or anything. Otherwise it could put a strain on the relationship... alot of bad could come out of it, but when they hanging out, 225k guy should buy the beer, or the round of golf or whatever...
Feel like its more too it, but if not, then Im with you. kinda messed up... I had a friend like that, and I would give him $50 spot before we went out and be like this is for you drinks tonight.. I just want him to have fun and not feel financially restricted, I don't need the attention for it... so yeah, if they friends like that, then he probably should do a little more.... but if poor guy starts relying on rich guy for money, friendship gonna get ruined somehow.
To so many people I am very well off financially. Am I also being selfish for not mailing checks to your depressed friend every week?
There are countless people who struggle with money and health issues who still come up with ways to help themselves. Until your depressed friend does that, there is very little the rich friend can do that will offer much relief from the situation
There are countless people who struggle with money and health issues who still come up with ways to help themselves. Until your depressed friend does that, there is very little the rich friend can do that will offer much relief from the situation
I am telling you find solutions to the depressed guys life. the guy that makes the money is not his responsibility. he is not his father. i understand where you are coming from but the depressed friend must wake up. i dont give a shit if he has to take a walk through a childrens hospital to realize how lucky he is he has to find something that wakes him up and get motivated and that does not include your friend giving him money. s
I never said to give him money on a reg basis....he never does anything for him..ever. Sorry, i would not let sm1 I know quite well suffer and never help out...i'm talking it's your bday or xmas throw him a c note or something...it is what it is....i guess karma will be the decisive in the end. Like i said if your gonna give money to people you hardly know, then you should do the same do people you know..somewhat..never said support the guy. Maybe posters are right, it could lead to expectations of it occuring on a reg basis..
