Going to try and keep this as short and as much to the point as possible!
My daughter is 14 and in The 9th Grade.
She is 5'1"....86Lbs...Thin and In Shape.
Back around the first of Febuary she told me that she was seriously thinking about trying out for The High School Track Team.
I Asked Would She Be On Varsity or JV.
She Said She Wanted To Be On The Varsity Team Because The JV Team Was Nothing But 7th @ 8th Graders. I Know It's Been Awhile, but When I Was In High School....As a General Rule, All Sports Basically Went Like This: VARSITY=11th/12th Grade(Maybe 10th If You Were Really Good)
JV=9th/10th
B-TEAM=7th/8th
But Anyway, That's Not Important.
So About a Week Later, She Told Me That Track Was Starting and To Pick Her Up Around 5pm Everyday. My Intial Question Was, "When Are The Actual TRYOUTS?"
She Told Me, There Really Aren't Tryouts For Track. Basically If You Want To Be On The Team, Then You Are On The Team.
So For The Last 6 Weeks, It Been "TRACK, TRACK, TRACK!"
She's Coming Home Telling Me That She Will Be Running The 100 Meter & 200 Meter Sprints. At First She Was Running The 100M In 18-19 Seconds. The 200M In 34-35 Seconds. She Kept Saying, I've Got To Get FASTER. So Everyday, After Going To School For 8 Hours, and Having Track Practice For 2 Hours, She Would Come Home and Run More Sprints and Then Spend Time On The BowFlex and Treadmill. Last Week She Had Gotten Her Times Down In The 100M To 14 Seconds and Down To 31 Seconds In The 200M. Not Usian Bolt Speed, but Pretty Impressive NoneTheLess! But More Than Anything Else, I Was More Impressed By Her Consistant Didication To Getting Better!
Anyway, Last Friday She Came Home With....A Form To Fill Out Asking Us To Pay a $75 Athletic Fee, A List Of What Kind Of Track Shoes She Would Need To Purchase, An Order Form For Both The Students and Parents For Team TShirts and SweatShirts, and A Schedule.
So Over The Weekend We Went Out And Bought Some $110 Nike Track Shoes, My Wife Sent In The $75 Athletic Fee, and Ordered Each Of Us A Team Tee & SweatShirt....Counting The Physical, We Have About $500 Invested In Track, But No Big Deal as The Excitement Is Mounting And The 1st Track Meet Of The Season Is This THURSDAY(Tomorrow @ 430pm) At A Rival School..Away Meet(very important, point coming up)
So She Goes To Practice...Monday and Tuesday..Her Times Are Better Than Ever. And I Usually Get To See Atleast 15-20 Minutes Of Practice Each Day. And They Are Running 100M & 200M Heats...There Are 4 Girls, and She Is Almost Always 2nd, Behind A "Senior Cheetah!!" So Tuesday Afternoon She Tells Me, "Dad We Are Getting Our Meet Shorts and Tanks Tomorrow..I Can't Wait!"
Now...The Good Part..Well NOT SO GOOD PART!
I Pulled Up As Practice Was Ending Today and She, Along With Everyone Else Was Walking Off The Field. She Gets In The Car, and Says...."Dad I'm NOT Ready For Tomorrow's Track Meet!" I Said, "Well You Better Be Ready, Tomorrow Is The Big Day!" Her Reply Was, "No You Don't Understand! I'm Ready But The Coaches Told Me And Another Girl Today That We Weren't Quite Ready and Needed More Practice and Training Before We Could Compete! And What Makes It So Bad Is, Everybody Got There Shorts and Tanks, and Me & Taylor Didn't! So I Asked Why, and One Of The Coaches Said, Like We Said, Ya'll Need More Training and We Aren't Taking You Two To The Meet Tomorrow! But Maybe Y'all Will Be Ready To Compete Next Week..We'll Just Have To See!" She Then Busted Out Crying! Still In The School Parking Lot, I Slammed On Brakes, and Told Her Maybe I Need To Go Have A Little Talk With All 4 Coaches! She Said "No..It Will Just Make It Harder On Me!" So As I Drove Home, I Asked Her To Please Tell Me Exactly What Happened Again....and She Told Me That After Practice They All Came Together On The Track Like Always, and The Coaches Called Each One Up And Handed Out Their Shorts, Tanks, and Number. Then Her and Taylor Were Left and One Of The Coaches Came Over And Told Them They Weren't Ready, Needed More Practice, and Weren't Coming Along For The Meet!
I Completely Lost It For A Few Minutes and I'm Still Pretty Damn Irate As I Type Tnis 5 1/2 Hours Later!! I Simply Think It Is Just Bullshit! She Had Her Physical, She Paid Her Athletic Fee, She Has Her Spikes/Track Shoes, She's Never Missed Practice, She Had A 3.5 GPA, She's Gotten Better, She's One Of The Fastest Sprinters! But, None Of That Bothers Me.......What Kills Me Is This: "YOU ARE NOT GOING TO THE MEET!" How Can You Leave Members Of The Team Behind?? Even If She Was The Worst One, or Had An Ailment...Leave Her Behind?!?! It Just Doesn't Make Sense! This Type Of Bullshit Is What Frustrates Kids and Makes Then Want To Quit or GiveUp On Their Goals Or Dreams! I Have Searched For Answers On How To Handle It....She Has Laid On Her Bed, Depressed..No More Like Devistated!
I Have Thought About Going To The School In The Morning And Asking To See The Head Coach!
I Have Thought About Going To The School And Asking To See The Principal Or Athletic Director!
I Have Thought About Going Even Higher In Administration, by Going To The School District Office!
But My Daughter Says, "No Dad, Just Leave It Alone. I'll Practice All Wekend And Try Even Harder Next Week And Maybe They Will Take Me Along For Next Week's Meet!"
And While I Like Her Attitude....I Feel So Much Hurt/Pain/LetDown For Her and Want To Do Something About It!
Why Not Take My Daughter and The Other Kid With Them, Even If They Didn't Compete In Any Events, Atleast They Would Be With The Team and Feel Included!
But Instead...She Won't Even Know How Things Turned Out and Will Have To Wait Until Monday To Find Out, bc There Is No School On Friday.
I Feel This Is Wrong and Want To Let Someone Know About It!
Am I Seeing This Wrong?
What Would You Do?
Opinions Please!
Thanks, ShotDoc
My daughter is 14 and in The 9th Grade.
She is 5'1"....86Lbs...Thin and In Shape.
Back around the first of Febuary she told me that she was seriously thinking about trying out for The High School Track Team.
I Asked Would She Be On Varsity or JV.
She Said She Wanted To Be On The Varsity Team Because The JV Team Was Nothing But 7th @ 8th Graders. I Know It's Been Awhile, but When I Was In High School....As a General Rule, All Sports Basically Went Like This: VARSITY=11th/12th Grade(Maybe 10th If You Were Really Good)
JV=9th/10th
B-TEAM=7th/8th
But Anyway, That's Not Important.
So About a Week Later, She Told Me That Track Was Starting and To Pick Her Up Around 5pm Everyday. My Intial Question Was, "When Are The Actual TRYOUTS?"
She Told Me, There Really Aren't Tryouts For Track. Basically If You Want To Be On The Team, Then You Are On The Team.
So For The Last 6 Weeks, It Been "TRACK, TRACK, TRACK!"
She's Coming Home Telling Me That She Will Be Running The 100 Meter & 200 Meter Sprints. At First She Was Running The 100M In 18-19 Seconds. The 200M In 34-35 Seconds. She Kept Saying, I've Got To Get FASTER. So Everyday, After Going To School For 8 Hours, and Having Track Practice For 2 Hours, She Would Come Home and Run More Sprints and Then Spend Time On The BowFlex and Treadmill. Last Week She Had Gotten Her Times Down In The 100M To 14 Seconds and Down To 31 Seconds In The 200M. Not Usian Bolt Speed, but Pretty Impressive NoneTheLess! But More Than Anything Else, I Was More Impressed By Her Consistant Didication To Getting Better!
Anyway, Last Friday She Came Home With....A Form To Fill Out Asking Us To Pay a $75 Athletic Fee, A List Of What Kind Of Track Shoes She Would Need To Purchase, An Order Form For Both The Students and Parents For Team TShirts and SweatShirts, and A Schedule.
So Over The Weekend We Went Out And Bought Some $110 Nike Track Shoes, My Wife Sent In The $75 Athletic Fee, and Ordered Each Of Us A Team Tee & SweatShirt....Counting The Physical, We Have About $500 Invested In Track, But No Big Deal as The Excitement Is Mounting And The 1st Track Meet Of The Season Is This THURSDAY(Tomorrow @ 430pm) At A Rival School..Away Meet(very important, point coming up)
So She Goes To Practice...Monday and Tuesday..Her Times Are Better Than Ever. And I Usually Get To See Atleast 15-20 Minutes Of Practice Each Day. And They Are Running 100M & 200M Heats...There Are 4 Girls, and She Is Almost Always 2nd, Behind A "Senior Cheetah!!" So Tuesday Afternoon She Tells Me, "Dad We Are Getting Our Meet Shorts and Tanks Tomorrow..I Can't Wait!"
Now...The Good Part..Well NOT SO GOOD PART!
I Pulled Up As Practice Was Ending Today and She, Along With Everyone Else Was Walking Off The Field. She Gets In The Car, and Says...."Dad I'm NOT Ready For Tomorrow's Track Meet!" I Said, "Well You Better Be Ready, Tomorrow Is The Big Day!" Her Reply Was, "No You Don't Understand! I'm Ready But The Coaches Told Me And Another Girl Today That We Weren't Quite Ready and Needed More Practice and Training Before We Could Compete! And What Makes It So Bad Is, Everybody Got There Shorts and Tanks, and Me & Taylor Didn't! So I Asked Why, and One Of The Coaches Said, Like We Said, Ya'll Need More Training and We Aren't Taking You Two To The Meet Tomorrow! But Maybe Y'all Will Be Ready To Compete Next Week..We'll Just Have To See!" She Then Busted Out Crying! Still In The School Parking Lot, I Slammed On Brakes, and Told Her Maybe I Need To Go Have A Little Talk With All 4 Coaches! She Said "No..It Will Just Make It Harder On Me!" So As I Drove Home, I Asked Her To Please Tell Me Exactly What Happened Again....and She Told Me That After Practice They All Came Together On The Track Like Always, and The Coaches Called Each One Up And Handed Out Their Shorts, Tanks, and Number. Then Her and Taylor Were Left and One Of The Coaches Came Over And Told Them They Weren't Ready, Needed More Practice, and Weren't Coming Along For The Meet!
I Completely Lost It For A Few Minutes and I'm Still Pretty Damn Irate As I Type Tnis 5 1/2 Hours Later!! I Simply Think It Is Just Bullshit! She Had Her Physical, She Paid Her Athletic Fee, She Has Her Spikes/Track Shoes, She's Never Missed Practice, She Had A 3.5 GPA, She's Gotten Better, She's One Of The Fastest Sprinters! But, None Of That Bothers Me.......What Kills Me Is This: "YOU ARE NOT GOING TO THE MEET!" How Can You Leave Members Of The Team Behind?? Even If She Was The Worst One, or Had An Ailment...Leave Her Behind?!?! It Just Doesn't Make Sense! This Type Of Bullshit Is What Frustrates Kids and Makes Then Want To Quit or GiveUp On Their Goals Or Dreams! I Have Searched For Answers On How To Handle It....She Has Laid On Her Bed, Depressed..No More Like Devistated!
I Have Thought About Going To The School In The Morning And Asking To See The Head Coach!
I Have Thought About Going To The School And Asking To See The Principal Or Athletic Director!
I Have Thought About Going Even Higher In Administration, by Going To The School District Office!
But My Daughter Says, "No Dad, Just Leave It Alone. I'll Practice All Wekend And Try Even Harder Next Week And Maybe They Will Take Me Along For Next Week's Meet!"
And While I Like Her Attitude....I Feel So Much Hurt/Pain/LetDown For Her and Want To Do Something About It!
Why Not Take My Daughter and The Other Kid With Them, Even If They Didn't Compete In Any Events, Atleast They Would Be With The Team and Feel Included!
But Instead...She Won't Even Know How Things Turned Out and Will Have To Wait Until Monday To Find Out, bc There Is No School On Friday.
I Feel This Is Wrong and Want To Let Someone Know About It!
Am I Seeing This Wrong?
What Would You Do?
Opinions Please!
Thanks, ShotDoc