Thoughts about revenge.

MotorMouth · Nov 22, 2012

First understand that I am a peaceful guy and believe in Karma to a degree.
Not so caught up in the
morality of what is right and wrong but realizing that all actions can have blowback.

This is hypothetical and I have no one that I want to do anything to, just want to
discuss the subject matter.

So if it comes down to it and someone has wronged you AND as a person
you forgive and truly hold no ill will BUT you must send a message back because

1. You have to make it known that this type of behavior is unacceptable for
them or someone like them to try again

2. You are kind hearted in that you need demonstrate to that person the
behavior was unacceptable to do to anyone else as a vengeful person could
retaliate much worse.

3. You are not wanting to do anything that will destroy this person or cause him
extended misery BUT you cannot just "let it go" for the reasons I described.

So with that criteria in mind, what would be some good ideas to Humble this individual?

Again, just letting it go is not an option and it doesnt matter what the person did because
as far as you are concerned it is something bad enough that needs to be addressed in
a significant way.

MotorMouth · Nov 22, 2012

p.s Even though I titled it thoughts about revenge, its more about teaching a lesson than revenge.

Tulsa · Nov 22, 2012

Here's the problem.....if you do something like put dog poop on their car handle, they won't know who did it and no lesson is learned. If you do something like put dog poop on their car handle and leave a note telling them it was you, then you look like the nut-job that needs help, not them.

Further, you risk repraisal and an escalation of negative behaviors. Substitute dog poop on door handle with any act like sugar in the gas or slashed tires or eggs on house/car....or whatever.

Here is the deal....you cannot get revenge and teach a lesson, unless you are willing to march the situation all the way to 'way bad' with arrests and shootings culminating the story. From your post above it is obvious that is not what you would like to see, hypothetically.

The only thing that you can do in that situation is directly talk to the person (best) or send a letter or email (worst.) Tell them how you feel and how they didn't do right. Tell them you forgive them but that you expect such behavior to never happen again.

That's about all you can do.

tulsa

jb777 · Nov 22, 2012

IMO if you can't let it go like you said you need to remove this person from your life, cut all ties. Just my 2 cents.

KillaRSox · Nov 22, 2012

Did they kill a family member or friend?

If the answer to this question is NO, which I'm guessing it is. Just move on and forget about it.

Cut ties with the person so they don't drag you down their shitty path of life....

bigtendominator · Nov 22, 2012

Well said Tulsa.

WorldNumberOne · Nov 22, 2012

Lead pipe to their knees will send the message .

Inactiongirl · Nov 24, 2012

All I know is it's a dish best served cold.

Ticotaco · Nov 25, 2012

Tell the person who was wrong what they did that was wrong and suggest ways to apologize/rectify the situation. Good Luck

degengambler · Nov 26, 2012

MotorMouth said:
p.s Even though I titled it thoughts about revenge, its more about teaching a lesson than revenge.

this is what karma is. experiencing a lesson over and over until you get it right. people think it's the do
good and good things happen, do bad and bad things happen. NOPE.

therefore, honestly, if i knew i wouldn't be caught and go to prison, there are people i would like
to remove from the planet. cannot permit evil to exist. too much evil could overtake good;
then we all have problems.